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I'm beyond shocked right now
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My sister just called me- my former brother-in-law, her ex-husband Jon, committed suicide today. I can't believe it, it's just unreal to me. She told this was actually his third attempt, though he had never been successful before. I'm just stunned. I don't like the man, never really did, in fact I pretty much hated him for a lot of years. And after he dumped my sister the way he did, even though it was so painful for my sister, I can't deny we were relieved to see the last of him.

The last time I saw Jon was at my mother's funeral, ovder 3 years ago. He even came to visit my mom at the house before she died, and really, both contacts were as pleasant as they could be, under the circumstances. I guess I let go of the anger a while ago. Right now I'm just in total shock. I can't believe this is real.

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OMG, I'm so sorry! Regardless of how you feel about a person, it's always shocking and painful to find out they've taken their own life. I'm always so torn about suicide. I feel awful that anyone could find themselves in such a dark place that they would consider such a terrible, final act. Life is a precious gift, not to be squandered, and it's so sad when someone sees it as a burden instead. At the same time, though, I think suicide is ultimately very selfish. That person's pain is over, but what about the people left behind? They'll mourn the loss, clean up the mess (sometimes literally), and beat themselves up wondering if there was some way they could have prevented it. They could end up scarred for life.

The ex-husband of a friend of mine committed suicide a few months ago, leaving two kids behind. I feel more angry at him than anything else, because I see how much his death hurt everyone who cared about him. It's devastating just to watch it from the outside. I can't imagine what it must be like to be in the middle of it.

Jon's sister, Kari Ann, lives here in florida, not too far from us. She and my sister are still really close, and I can only imagine what she's feeling right now. And Jon's parents, they aren't well at the best of times (both recovered drug addicts, but his mom also had serious mental issues), and the agony they're in right now must be unbearable.

And my poor sister, she must be devastated and confused as hell at the same time. She and Jon were together for 11 years before their extremely short marriage and divorce. Even after he left, he kind of stalked her, intefering in her other relationships and causing problems. I still remember my father getting up at 2AM and driving over to my sister's apartment, because the ex had called and said he was coming over. I think over the last few years they had reached a kind of peace, or at least I hope they did.

Thanks for your sympathy, sweetie. *Hugs*

I'm still in shock right now.

*HUGS YOU TIGHTLY* My thoughts are with you, your sister, and her former in-laws. Suicide is particularly painful and traumatizing.

*Hugs back* Thank you so much. I think we're all in a state of shock right now. I can't believe he did this, it's just unreal.

He was a part of your life, for good and ill. I don't think it's necessary to sort the good stuff from the crappy stuff in terms of the fact that he obviously had problems that ultimately couldn't be overcome but will also be mourned. *hugs*

That's a really good way to express everything. Thank you so much for that. *Hugs back*

That is understandably shocking and upsetting. How awful.

It's just unreal to all of us. What a horrible thing, especially for my sister. She was with him for eleven years, plus their extremely short six month marriage.

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